3 Tips for Healthy Ego-Boosts
One of the challenges of being (and identifying with) the StrongBlackWoman archetype (personality type) is with your self-esteem and your ego. Suffering without complaint, putting forward the appearance of strength, and suppressing anything that doesn’t fit or contradicts the image can put you in a situation where you experience low self-esteem because you’re setting an impossible mark for yourself to accomplish. Low self-esteem can be a very damaging condition.
Low self-esteem can contribute to you feeling uninspired, down, or powerless – but with focused work, you can create brighter days ahead. You have the power to renew your ego within a matter of days. You will need to put in some work to overcome the roadblocks in the way of your rising self-esteem, but your efforts will certainly be worth it.
These tips will help you boost your ego in a healthy way in no time at all:
- Consider YOUR needs. Honoring others while denying yourself is not healthy. Give yourself permission to do what makes you happy without allowing what others may think about you or your decisions to deter you. Once you stop worrying about keeping up with appearances, your mind and soul will be free.
Living without fear of judgment will allow you to open doors that were once only a dream. Often, you’ll even find that your financial situation will improve because you aren’t making expensive or impulse purchases to keep up appearances.
Sometimes, family can be your biggest source of judgment and worry. If this is your situation, learn to set boundaries and allow the negativity to roll off off your shoulders. Occasionally, it may be helpful to listen to the advice of family members, but when that advice turns to criticism or begins to run your life, remember to put yourself first.
2. Take pride in your appearance. When you present yourself in a neat and stylish manner, your ego will instantly increase because when you look good, you feel good. You’ll automatically walk with your head a bit higher when you’re confident in your appearance.
Contrary to common belief, it doesn’t take a lot of money to look good. Simply eat a healthy diet, treat your skin before bed each night, be gentle and consistent in caring for your hair, and ensure that your clothing is clean and pressed.
If you’re concerned about your appearance, try to fix it. If you’re unhappy with your nose, contour it with makeup. If you’re unhappy with your hips or tummy, purchase a body shaper. Almost all body issues can be addressed quite inexpensively.
3. Surround yourself with positivity. Surround yourself with people who care and appreciate you. If your friends and family are constantly giving you unwarranted criticism, this can undoubtedly lead to low self-esteem. Have a talk with the people in your life about how negatively their harsh comments affect you; if they truly care for you, they’ll put a stop to it immediately.
Some people are simply hardwired to dish out negativity. If your circle includes people like this, you may have to distance yourself a bit from the negative influences in your life.
Of course, your loved ones aren’t required to praise you in order to be on your priority list, but your efforts to give yourself a healthy ego boost will fall short if you’re constantly being torn down by the negativity of others.
Rediscover an old hobby or find a new one. By involving yourself with something you enjoy, you’re creating your own positivity. You’ll feel better about yourself as you increase your happiness.
Developing a healthy ego may seem like a simple concept, but many people struggle with insecurity and self-doubt. However, if you’re able to effectively implement the tips above, you’ll notice your self-esteem rise quickly. Remember, you’re worth the effort and your contribution is important to the world.