Happiness is hard to find without a sense of self-worth. If you’re not happy with yourself, how can you be happy about life in general and where you’re going?
Self-worth is about believing that you have value as a person, StrongBlackWoman. It’s not about how you compare to others. It’s your belief in your intrinsic value as a human being. We’re all important – you should cultivate that belief with rock-solid confidence that will carry you through challenging circumstances. Some of us just require a little more convincing than others, so check out these tips below.
Maximize your feelings of self-worth:
- Forgive yourself. You have plenty of guilt and resentment toward yourself that you’ve been carrying around for years. You chose the wrong major in college or broke up with your significant other via text. Give yourself a break and vow to do better in the future.
- Volunteer. Spending your time in a valuable and selfless way is a quick means to raise your opinion about yourself. Just two hours a week has been shown to make a difference – find a local organization that could use your help and expertise.
- Avoid gossiping. Gossip probably has gotten you in trouble in the past, and you know it’s not the most productive use of your time. Try pointing out positive traits and actions in others, instead. You’ll both feel better!
- Face a few of your smaller fears. We feel bad that we’re afraid of things that we know we shouldn’t fear. Face a few small fears and overcome them. You’ll be impressed with yourself, and you’ll build strength for the future.
- Set personal boundaries and enforce them. There’s no reason to allow others to use or manipulate you. Decide what you consider to be reasonable behavior and enforce it. Word will spread, and your life will be smoother.
- Set goals you can achieve. It’s important to have big goals, but small goals are important, too. Big goals lead to big accomplishments, but smaller goals can provide a great lift to your self-worth. Make it easy to succeed on a regular basis. Completing your daily to-do list is an example of completing a smaller goal.
- Define your values and live by them. It’s important to determine what you’re willing to do and what you’re not willing to do, as well as what’s important and unimportant to you. If you’re able to live by these values, you won’t have a reason to think badly of yourself.
Many people don’t take the time to define their values. They rely on a vague sense of right and wrong from childhood. Give it some thought and put your ideas down on paper. When you’re stuck with a tough decision, pull out the list and use it to help evaluate your options.
8. Be willing to make changes in your life. The same life lived the same way will provide the same results. Some changes will be necessary if your goal is to enhance your self-worth.
9. Voice your opinion. Do you keep your opinion to yourself because you think no one cares? Maybe you put everyone else’s happiness above your own. Neither is good for your self-image or your confidence. Your opinion matters. Share it.
10. Minimize time spent with others who don’t appreciate you. Do you have a friend or family member that drags down your self-worth? Think about limiting contact with them, spending less time with them, or letting them go completely from your life.
Make decisions. Indecisiveness creates stress and frustration. It’s also a way of avoiding responsibility. Take a reasonable amount of time and then pull the trigger. You’ll feel more in control of your life.
When you think negatively about yourself, you lower your expectations. You even begin to look for reasons to support those thoughts. This is the ultimate in self-defeating behaviors. Your feelings of self-worth influence your ability to be happy and successful. Be proud of who you are as a person. Life will be easier and more enjoyable.