Faith can be defined as complete trust or confidence in someone or something – and often we find that confidence is in something outside of ourselves. What if you could develop a stronger sense of trust and confidence in YOU?
After all – who do you always have access to? Yourself! There may be times when you can’t reach out to those people who have been your support and your strength – and when that happens, you need to be able to look within and help yourself to keep going, to not give up.
Life teaches all of us – you, me, our friend and family – many lessons and helps to prepare us all for tough times. Grieving because of the loss of a loved one is one of the toughest experiences any human being can go through. The heaviness in your heart, the sadness at losing access to someone you loved and felt close to, and the simple fact that you can’t see them whenever you want to – it’s a lot to get through.
I admit that my grief is one of the hardest things to get over – one of the most difficult times that I’ll ever deal with in my life. Knowing that I can depend on myself, though, also builds in me that sense of confidence that I know I can make it through this challenge.
On days when I am feeling blue and missing my loved one, I rely on my faith to lift my spirit back up. When I lost my dear Mother, I felt lost and alone for a short while. She was my last living parent, as I lost my Father when I was only 9 years old. All of my older siblings are also gone – health issues ravaged both sides of my family, including heart disease, high blood pressure and diabetes. It would have been easy to become fatalistic – to assume that because of my family history, I too would be destined to die earlier than expected.
I tapped into my inner strength through my connection to my Faith, knowing that if I allowed myself to dwell in the darkness, wallow in the sadness, it would be easy for it to become a part of me, and I might not shake off that darkness and sadness.
I lean heavily on the foundation and structure of my Faith, because I know that is where my strength and guidance comes from. I remind myself to tap into my reserves of strength – those built up over the days, weeks, months and years of being involved in my Faith. Knowing that help is there for me to call out to when I need it – help that I’ve installed within myself by staying connected to my Faith. I am never truly alone in my time of need – should I need to, I can call out for help.
I also know that I have a deep well of love inside me – love for myself – that keeps me centered on what’s important when I experience a loss. I remember all the good times I had with my loved ones, how much they loved me, and how much we meant to each other. I remember that they always and only wanted the best for me, and that me remaining in the darkness and sadness of my intense grief is NOT how they would want me to live my life. It’s not how I need to express my love for them.
I am comforted when I remember my loved ones – and all that they meant to me. I am reminded that my loved one is in a place without suffering or pain. That knowledge swells within me and softens my grief – it is enough for me to gather my strength and move forward with my life.
Today, I know I have the strength to make it through grief, sorrow, and loss. I am confident that accessing my Faith can help start the healing process so that my pain doesn’t keep me stuck in the negative – stuck thinking about what I’ve lost instead of revering what I experienced and what I still have – the loving memories of those who remain special to me.\
Tapping into my Faith, my Love and my Spirit help me to heal, help lessen the grief, and help me move on to being happy again.